My Second Birth Story

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It’s true what they say- every baby and every pregnancy is different from the other. With London, my water broke and while it was a small leak, it was clear that I was in labor and we would be having a baby. This time around, it was a little different.

I started experiencing what’s called “prodromal labor” in the weeks leading up to my due date. I was having regular, painful contractions that were 3-5 minutes apart. I went into triage about 4 times, thinking I was in labor. They would monitor me, check my cervix, and determine that there was no change. I was 3cm dilated already by 37 weeks, but my cervix wasn’t changing with the contractions. Each time we were sent home was a disappointment.

During each visit with my OB, she was surprised that I still hadn’t given birth! I was even more dilated every week that I went in. By 39 weeks, I was 4.5cm dilated and 70% effaced. We decided to try a membrane sweep to help speed things along. That night, I woke up to painful contractions again, but I didn’t think much of it since I had been having false labor contractions for weeks. I waited to see if they got more intense, but by morning, they had pretty much disappeared. By this point I was so tired and so ready to have this baby. I spent the afternoon walking the neighborhood to see if it would help start anything. I did lose more of my mucus plug, but still no (strong enough) contractions.

That night I woke up yet again to pretty painful contractions. I wasn’t hopeful, but my mom encouraged me to go into triage to at least have a cervix check. I was told that if I was at a 5, it is considered active labor and they would have to admit me. When we got in, the nurse checked me and determined I was only 1cm dilated. I was so confused because my OB told me I was 4.5 just two days earlier. I waited to be monitored and checked again after an hour. This time a second nurse came in and said she agreed that I was 1.5cm. I don’t know if it was the hormones, the exhaustion, or a mixture, but I was very frustrated and insisted on a doctor performing another cervix check because of the discrepancy. Thank God I did, because the doctor came and determined I was indeed 5cm dilated. He called my OB down to check me herself and she said I was actually 7cm dilated and admitted me right away! It was all so confusing and shocking, but I was just relieved to finally have the baby and be done with labor.

The rest of the day went as smoothly as I could’ve hoped for. I was able to get an epidural and it worked wonderfully. I was admitted at 9:30am and was ready to push by 3:00pm. I pushed for about 40 minutes and realized something was off by the number of people in the room and the fact that baby still was not out. I later learned that baby was much bigger than expected and had gotten stuck behind my pelvic bone. During the last push, one doctor had to assist by pushing down on my stomach while my OB pulled baby by the shoulders. Elias Ezekiel was born 11lbs even. Other than a small fracture, he had no health complications and Q was able to cut the cord. We were able to do immediate skin to skin and all of my prayers were answered about an easy and “normal” vaginal delivery.

I am still so thankful for an amazing doctor who always had mine and baby’s best interests in mind. We have spent the last month adjusting to our new family of 4 and loving every minute. London is the sweetest big sister and is obsessed with her baby brother. Christmas truly came early for us this year 🥰

Surviving the Newborn Stage

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Bringing our first child home from the hospital was probably the most exciting and nerve-wracking feeling I’ve ever felt. And now that she is 4.5 months old, I can actually say: WE DID IT. We survived. And it was harder than anyone ever told me it would be!

Not much will make it feel easy perse, but I do have some trips that might help out if you feel like you’re drowning in helplessness!

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1. People will offer help. SAY YES

You know how you normally decline help in effort to be polite? Don’t do that! Having a baby is hard in so many ways and good people that understand that want to help you. We had neighbors dropping off take out, friends taking our dog out while we were in the hospital, and of course people bringing an endless supply of diapers. It was SO nice to not have to worry about those sort of things while I was healing and bonding with our new baby. 10/10 would recommend!

2. Take turns being on baby duty

I feel like I will get some criticism for this because a lot of people believe the mom should do everything for the baby (*eye roll*). However, this worked wonders for me and Q. London would not sleep AT ALL at night for the first month and saying it was exhausting is a major understatement. We came up with a plan to split the night in half: he would stay up from 12am-4am and I would be up with her from 4am-8am. This way we would at least get 4 hours of sleep a night. Of course this only works if you are pumping or formula feeding, but I am all for giving dad some breastmilk in a bottle and giving him the chance to bond too!

3. Keep notes with any important information

I’m not sure if this applies to everyone, but our babe had some eating issues in the beginning. Every time we visited the pediatrician, we were given a ton of new information and tips on what we should try/not try. It was overwhelming trying to remember everything. I started a note on my phone and eventually put it up on the fridge, that way I didn’t have the added pressure of memorizing everything. Learning how to take care of a new baby was enough and I didn’t need the extra work.

4. Find joy in the little accomplishments

If you’re anything like me, you’re gonna want to be a natural at being a parent and expect everything to come easily. It most likely won’t (and if it does, I envy you). Don’t try to tackle on too much in one day. I remember the first time I took London out of the house by myself. I literally just walked down the street to the grocery store. But I felt so accomplished and so much more confident in my new role. So take pride in those little moments and trust that soon enough, you’ll be nursing on a plane, pumping the other side, and eating lunch all at the same time (true story. lol)

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At the end of the day, you’re going to find out what works for you and your family, despite all of the advice people will try to give you. Just smile and nod so that they can end their rant about why you should use one brand over another and keep doing you! xx

 

5 Things That Happen When You Become a Parent

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Just like with pregnancy, there are a lot of changes that happen when you become a parent that no one really prepares you for. You leave the hospital with a tiny human and quickly realize your world is now completely about them. But there’s more. 

1. You’re now a “mom driver”.

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2. “Sleeping in” is waking up anytime after 5am.

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Even on nights when you’re baby-free, your body just isn’t used to sleeping until noon anymore.

 

3. Your kid is usually dressed better than you.

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4. You talk about your kids nonstop.

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Every conversation starts with “we’re new parents” or “do you have kids?”

 

5. Going out just isn’t the same anymore.

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You get a babysitter and decide to take on the town, but quickly realize that you’d much rather be at home, snuggled with your little one, singing the itsy bitsy spider 99,000 times. And I guess that’s parenthood 🤷🏽‍♀️